26 Mar MEN AND WOMEN AT THE CROSSROADS What roads love?
The paths of amorous feelings in which men and women seek each other and travel together, in the hope of finding common goals that are as gratifying and satisfying as possible, if not perfect, are many and different. They are paths as old as the world. Despite this, even today and especially today, we are unable to understand the best way to choose them and live them well. Even today, and especially today, we have not learned to distinguish the paths that unite from those that divide; the paths that lead to understanding from those that lead to conflict. The paths that build civilizations and those that prepare barbarism. The paths that help human societies in their growth and those that lead to degeneration and conflict. Even today we are unable to find the best ways to travel them together, men and women, hand in hand, with mutual respect and availability, with mutual understanding and tenderness, without useless infatuations but also with a lot of care and attention towards the other. Without illusions, of course, but also with the right trust and hope. The author, while not wanting to give “recipes” on the best way to experience feelings and emotions of love, intends to clarify some fundamental questions: what is love and when does it arise? What is it for? Why do we fall in love? Who do we fall in love with? Why do we choose and live a certain type of love rather than another? Why do so many loves end? And finally, what are the behaviors and personal, couple, family and social contributions that facilitate understanding and what are the attitudes that lead to conflict and clash.
Emidio Tribulato, doctor, neuropsychiatrist and psychologist, currently directs the Logos Study Center in Messina and is a consultant for the U.C.I.P.E.M. Family Counseling Center in the same city. He has been involved in the prevention and treatment of situations of distress that affect minors, couples and families for over twenty years. Among his publications we remember: Voglia di crescere, Leducazione negata, Mondo affettivo e mondo economico.
